Healthy Confessions

Hi there!

I hope you are doing well.

Today, I need to confess. What’s it all about, you might wonder!

An alliance came for me right at the time when my grandfather was in hospital. The boy and his family were to come to see me and my family on 11^th September 2022 but it got stalled due to my grandfather’s passing just the previous evening. All of us observed 13 days mourning and we all had forgotten about the alliance. Once the 13 days passed, my mother got a call from the boy’s mother, asking my mother whether they could still come home. My parents and me, for that matter, had given up hope about my marriage and also because my father is keeping unwell. I needn’t say more, you get me, right?

So, moving on, they came home to see us on 2^nd October 2022, Gandhi Jayanti day. After initial talks, me and Rahul (yes, that’s the boy’s name, can you imagine?), we were given the opportunity by my father, to speak alone in my room.

I began the conversation, he asked me to, and I still can’t believe it, we both have so much in common. It’s said, if you don’t like a person, you’ll come to know immediately but if there are sparks on both sides, you’ll be majorly confused and will not be able to come to a decision quickly. So we spoke and spoke. Almost for 2 hours. Now I can say that we hit it off right from the first meeting. Then, after that talk, we went outside and told our respective parents that we’d like to meet a couple of times more and then take a call whether we could proceed further or not.

Three meetings after that day, in the same week, and we both made our decision.

5^th October, 2022 was Dusshera day and our second date. Rahul made up his mind and proposed marriage to me on that day. I was overwhelmed with joy and confusion but even I was leaning towards the fact that I also felt the same as him. Still, I took three more days. On 6^th October, 2022, me and my mother, we went to his office and disclosed the bare facts of my mental health issues and much to my surprise, he was undeterred by it. Not once did his expression change and when my mother told him that marriage is a big ball game, it’s not easy and you need to face your own challenges, he understood and assured my mother that he’s made up his mind about marrying me, and he was clear headed about the fact. Then, the next day, i.e. 7^th October, 2022, I went over to his house just to get the feel of things happening. And I hit it off well with his family too. I thought I’ll get anxious and my mind will talk and I expected all the uneasiness to creep in, but you know what? I didn’t come, AT ALL. Instead, when my family came to see them the same evening and I was also present, I felt my people from my “maika” are coming to my house. I felt very welcome in that house. I felt touched. Beyond words.

Still, I had to be really sure. So I bought some more time.

Rahul and me, we met the following Sunday, 8^th October, 2022 and I cleared all my doubts and expressed about all my insecurities threadbare. And Rahul’s mind didn’t waver at all. He was very firm in his stand about marrying me but he understood me, gave me the space, time and respect. There was one particular point I was worried about and his answer to those questions made the decision for me. And nothing more was needed to be said or clarified. And…. I SAID YES!

Then there was no looking back!

6^th November, 2022, we got engaged.

18^th January, 2023, we got married.

23^rd January, 2023, my father left for his heavenly abode.

In all this, what I am able to fathom, is – If some people leave your life sometime, another person enters and stays for another destined time period. All my family feel that my grandfather and my father left, but they made sure somehow, that their void will be filled in by Rahul.

And that’s what happened.

I’m very happy now. I feel as though I am on seventh heaven.